You can be queen shit at whatever it is you do, you’re still going to need a leader when you’re trying something new. So whether I don’t care if you’re a doctor or a CEO, a frickin senator or whatever it is that you do now, you might be the very top. But when you decide to do something new, when you decide to make a big change in your life, whether it’s a new career or anything new hobby, it doesn’t matter what it is.

You’re no longer queen shit. Yes, you’re still queen shit. But when it comes to that new thing, you’re not. And you shouldn’t be because it’s something new. So don’t be afraid to ask for help. Don’t be afraid to reach out and find someone who is further along than you and ask for their help. This is why there are so there are so many amazing leaders and mentors out there, because they’ve been there. They’ve done that.

And if you want to do it faster, better, more profitable, whatever it is, if you want to win the awards or sell the most or whatever, you need someone who’s been there done that and they can help guide you through. This is why I hired a sales coach. This is why I still work with her, because for me, sales was terrifying. I’ve been in the medical field my entire adult life. I’ve been a nurse for the last 10 years.

That’s what I know. What I know is looking at any situation, seen pros and cons and two different sides and explaining that and sharing it with the patients so they can make the best decision for them. OK, so that’s what I know. Not trying to sell someone on something educating. And so for me, I needed a sales coach and I still do. I still work with her. She does way more than just teaching me sales. She’s so much more than that.

But she’s been there. So every time I get stuck or I have a really crappy day or a crappy week or month or hear whatever, I’m in a bad place, it’s a really good chance she’s been there. And if she hasn’t had my exact situation, which pretty much she’s had all of them, then she knows someone else. There’s someone else in our group and that I can reach out to who’s been there can help guide me. So I think it can be really scary and uncomfortable for us to reach out for help, especially being strong women who are come from leadership roles.

I come from leadership roles, being a nurse, being a charge nurse, managing a lot of people. And I come from a place where I’m used to being queen shit like it was hard for me. I’ve been in your position because I’ve been there and I still end up there all the time. I don’t like asking for help. I don’t like admitting when I’m wrong. I don’t like admitting that I’m struggling. It’s one of the hardest things and a lesson that I’ve had to learn.

And recently I have been incredibly humbled in this area because of life events. It’s something I had to experience so you can stay where you’re at, you can continue being queen shit of whatever it is you do. That’s totally fine. And you are queen shit, all of us. We’re queen shit of our own lives. But when it comes to something that you want to do, like I said, whether it’s a new career, you want to start your own business, you want to try doing some new fun, competitive sport.

I don’t know. You want to try to be an actress, you want to try to be a singer. Whatever it is that you want to do, you’re going to have to find a mentor or find somebody to help you get there. You can try on your own. Trust me, I did. When I started my own business, I tried it on my own and I basically got nowhere and I wasted a whole lot of time. And if I had just reached out for help when I was starting, it would have went so much faster and smoother.

But I was being stubborn. I was staying and my queen shit role and I was not ready to relinquish that. And I needed help. But trust me, if you want to move towards whatever it is you want to do, faster, stronger and better, find a mentor, get the help you need. And I promise it’s going to be better if you hook up with someone and they’re not the right fit with one to the next. There’s plenty of fish in the sea.

There are plenty of people to help you, and not everyone is going to be the perfect fit. And that’s OK. Totally OK. That’s why it’s so great that there are so many people out there that can help you. So please don’t let yourself continue to play small. Continue to make excuses. Continue to wish you had
something, just get out there and do it.